The key to friendship....

Well fellow reader you maybe thinking, I know what the key to friendship is or I have that down to a "T", well what I have learned it's not always what you think it is. Some believe it's Love or quality time, which don't get me wrong those are both great answers to that question and they do play a big part in friendship. What I have really learned is that Communication between you and that friend is what makes you closer together and makes you really good friends. Finding things out from other friends about your friend and making choices off of what you just heard isn't a very wise choice. The wise thing to do would be up front and ask your friend what is really going rather then listening to the things you've heard. Even when you're scared out of your freaking mind! I know this because it happened to me tonight.

A few weeks ago this friend and I, who I liked and she liked me back, made the choice to be just friends. We didn't realize it but the reason we made this choice was because we made conclusions based on things that weren't 100% accurate. We both got hurt pretty bad in the process. Neither of us realized this until tonight when we talking about the normal small talk stuff. How's your day going? What are you up to? How are you doing? etc. When she asked me how I was doing, I answered truthfully. I said "I'm alright". She asked me why and that one question of why are you feeling just alright created a snowball effect that ended up with us telling both sides of the story of what happened those few weeks before. We both we're shocked that we made similar mistakes that hurt each other....My choice doing the most damage. See I not only made a bad choice in asking her if she had really moved on but I went off of that and started to like this other girl. Let me tell you that was one of the biggest most stressful mistake and thing I've ever done. I ended up not liking her and only hurting someone else.

The main point of this whole story is that all of that could have been avoided if we had just communicated better and been real with each other. This is why I believe communication is the key to a strong and healthy relationship between friends. Now just because my story had to do with being more then just friends doesn't mean it can't be applied to a normal friendship. Well goodnight reader and really listen to what I said.

-Austin(Dukes)